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May 24, 2006

I'm so glad we had this time together

I have decided to put One Gay at a Time to bed, at least for a while. It really has reached a point where I don't have a whole lot to say, and the things I do want to talk about don't really belong here. Frankly updating the blog on a daily basis has become more of a burden than a pleasure, and it is time to explore other things. There may come a time when it is right to revisit this, but I can't say for sure.

This has been a wonderful experience. I have reconnected with old friends, and made new ones from around the world. I will continue to drop in on others and keep up to date.

I'll be seeing you.

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May 19, 2006

somewhere between 40 and death

Today I am 40, four oh, forty.

It feels nothing like I thought it would.

I have this memory from around 8 years old, when my mother turned 40. My father threw a party for her where all of her friends brought gag gifts (by the way I HATE gag gifts) like adult diapers and denture cleaner. Then my father took her to spend the night at a local nursing home. The following day he took her on some wonderful trip, but I have no working memory of where they went.

I have been thinking back on my decade marking birthdays. I think that the thing that 10, 20 and 30 all have in common was that the evenings all ended with me in tears. Hopefully that will not be the case tonight. My life is fuller today than it has ever been and I am so pleased to be able to spend the night surrounded by people I love.

I do want to send some birthday wishes out to my friend Melissa who was lucky enough to be born on my birthday. She turns 37 today, an insignificant birthday compared with mine, but I know it will make her happy to be mentioned. Happy Birthday my friend.

My final firmfit weigh in this morning, I have passed the 30 pounds lost mark, another great gift.

Final WIll & Grace last night. The best sight gag was Jacks tan and white teeth in the Grace dream sequence(God, I do love a dream sequence).

I hope you all have as wonderful a day as I will.

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May 18, 2006

better far than a metaphor could ever, ever be

I had a great date last night! Conversation was smooth, laughter came easily, he has amazing arms, we sat and had coffee and then went for a walk around uptown. You know it has been a long time since I really felt excited after spending an evening with someone, especially someone with such nice arms. It was a wonderful final date of my thirties and since we have made plans for next week, hopefully it will be a wonderful first date of my forties.

Did I mention that he has great arms? And very pretty eyes? and is 6'4"?

I am in a terribly good mood today.

Saturday is the final day of firmfit, now I have to put it all into action. Steve in Seattle, please note that Fabian was a no show again today!

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May 17, 2006

that was up until today

Busy, busy day ahead. At least I have something to look forward to at the end. I like mid week dates, there is a loosening of expectations, I mean I have to be up at 5 tomorrow.

I have one full day left in my 30's. Of course my friend Mike A says that 40 is the new 27, which does sound a little better then the new 30, but who is counting.

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May 16, 2006

and the wind changes course

I had a business trip scheduled for the beginning of this week, which was slightly altered. According to my calendar I am in LA right now, but I am not. Yesterday I ended up flying from Minneapolis to Cincinatti, then getting right back on the plane and flying back. Made for a terribly exciting day.

I went out this past weekend. to a bar! by myself! I didn't stay out long, just spent some time talking to guys I know and milling about. The Saloon has built a new room where the patio used to be, very fancy, with a fireplace and everything.

I did meet a guy, which is always nice. We chatted for quite a while before he had to leave with his gang of friends to go see the drag show at the 90's. It was one of those great initial conversations where you "accidentslly" touch each others faces as you lean in so that you can hear what the other person is saying and look each other in the eye while you talk. He e-mailed me yesterday and we are going for coffee tomorrow, the last date of my 30's. I am looking forward to it.

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May 12, 2006

wickedness must be punished

Tickets for Wicked here in Minneapolis go on sale today. What a wonderful birthday type gift these would make for someone. I just wish I knew someone whose birthday was say one week from today.

On a completely separate topic, my birthday is just one week from today. Hard to believe that I will be turning 40, it used to seem so old, still does at moments. I am trying to believe my friends who tell me that 40 is the new 30, but since they are mostly well past 40 it is losing a bit of credibility. My friend Scott was over last night and I got a little melancholy reflecting on the life that has brought me to this point and how my life differs from what my expectations had been. The reality is that my life is richer than anything I could have ever hoped for.

I have a lot of growing to do, I just learned that all over again.

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May 11, 2006

it gives me purpose, gives me voice

There are times that I have written things on this blog that seemed important to get off my chest at the time and in retrospect maybe didn't belong in a public forum. I forget sometimes that this has long ago moved beyond the point of a personal journal, which was one of it's first intentions. I do try in my life to be kind and honest, but there are times that comes out sideways.

I hurt someone with somethings I wrote here and I am sorry about that. That was not my intention. There are conversations that are best kept one on one.

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May 10, 2006

that class isn't for our kind, Alice

I ended up spinning twice yesterday, it felt great. I was tired by night time.

I am finding out some things about someone I care deeply for that are causing me to question their character, their integrity and with that my desire to be in a friendship with them. People make mistakes all the time, believe me I get that, I am a walking example of that. And those in early recovery have to try out lots of things to see if old behavior works when you are sober, I get that too. Perhaps it is because I get these things, and a great deal of other things about the situation I won't post here, that my initial reaction is to continue to be friends with this person.

But my trust level has greatly changed.

It is a lovely morning and looks to be a beautiful day.

Britney Spears is pregnant again, I have nothing to say about that.

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May 09, 2006

and send him on his way

My friend Mike A from Boston stayed at my house last night. It was, as always, a joy to spend time with him. He told me a humorous little story about Nick D's generous basket and the appearance it made on FOX TV in Boston during a clip about American Idol. Another reason for TIVO.

Starr Jones looks horrible, there I have said it.

Firmfit was great this am, Mike did a workout while I was spinning. At least he said he did, he was terribly dry.

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May 08, 2006

Just Because

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hmmm

I can't seem to upload a picture today. So I will try to post later, so you all can get your fix.

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May 05, 2006

for as long as we are living

It is frickin' cold today! I was all set for the warm weather to be here to stay, apparently there are forces greater than my will, this is not the first time that I have learned that lesson. Of course, being stubborn, I have simply refused to acknowledge that it is cold and refused to wear a jacket. So next week I should be complaining about the cold I have. Just to give you a heads up.

I had a nice date last night. Don't really think it was a love connection, but it was a very pleasant evening. We went to a very nice little boite that I have been trying to get to for months now. The food was very good, so if you find yourself hungry and near 55th and Xerxes in Edina Minnesota, I would recommend Cave Vin.

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May 04, 2006

there's nothing to be sure of

So today, in my early morning haze I grabbed a pair of cargo pants off the shelf and threw them on as I was headed down the stairs. The fit comfortably, but felt unfamiliar. The reason for this may be that it has been well over a year since I have worn them as I had "out grown" them, and by out grown I mean gotten too fat to wear them. So I am now down a full pant size! With this knowledge I have to start wearing clothes that fit, instead of what are now baggy, safe clothes. I have to check out the "thin" clothes I saved and see how they fit..people are still weraing tapered jeans, right?

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May 03, 2006

they meet at parties through the friends of friends that they never know

I have been trying to find a minute to post for 2 hours now. Sorry it is a short one, but work calls.

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May 02, 2006

Reefer and vino, Rest cures, religion and pills, but I'm here!

Dan made these great invites for my birthday party. The list of who is invited was put together by the hosts Dan, Fabian and Dave, so if you were not invited and think you should be don't blame me. Of course you may want to let me know, I do have a little pull on the guest list.

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May 01, 2006

Tra La It's May, the Lusty Month of May!

Well, I had a nice, if not hectic time in Dallas. It was great seeing Brian, who has recently become a homeowner and what a lovely home. I recieved an obscene phone call in my hotel room. I tell you I can only spend about 35-40 minutes on one of those before I have to hang up.

My plane was delayed for about 9 hours, which was charming. The Dallas airport is essentially a strip mall with carpeting. The brightest point was when I ran into a guy that I know through AA in Minneapolis getting off his plane and since he was heading to meet his family is was a brief moment of brightness.

When I finally did get home it was nice to relax and see the kitties. I do enjoy sleeping in my bed. I caught up on a lot of sleep this weekend and was refreshed for firmfit this morning. I have already made up the spin classes I missed, now I just need to fit in a lower body workout day.

Well time to work, I have a full week ahead. It is good to be back!

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