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January 31, 2006
someday they say, we'll have an airport
So yesterday my boss dropped a bit of a bombshell, he is making inquires about moving our office to Chicago. His plan is to move the office staff to Chicago with him.
There are alot of cute Irish guys in Chicago.
I LOVE cute Irish guys.
Well it is something to think about, nothing is set in stone.
What do you think? Move to Chicago where i can move forward with a company I respect in a city I love surrounded by cute men...
Or stay in a city I have come to know surrounded by people I love as friends and where I have a grounded base in my sobriety?
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January 30, 2006
toxic or hypertense
I think I am getting a cold, and my shoulder still hurts. Of course I won't go to the doctor, even though I am fortunate enough to be well insured, that would make too much sense. I really think that I would be one of those people who has a 45 pound growth removed from the side of my neck because I kept waiting for it to "take care of itself".
Dan closes on his house today, congrats to him. The fact that he is moving furniture into a new house today is totally not related to the excruciting pain I am experiencing in my shoulder or the fact that I think I may be at risk of sometime running a dangerously high fever, absolutely nothing.
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January 27, 2006
I've known what right and wrong since I was 10
I have great hopes that James Frey will take what has happened and use this experience to improve his life. I would invite him to pack a bag, come back to St Paul, spend some time at the Fellowship Club, hang out on Grand Ave., hit some meetings, get a sponsor, perhaps a little job at Caribou or Starbucks, learn some humility. I might save his life. I was saddened to see how he was not able to accept accountability for his choices.
The good news is that there is a solution, and I don't think the solution is "just hang on".
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January 26, 2006
CHICAGO - Author James Frey confessed to Oprah Winfrey Thursday that he made
up details about every character in his memoir "A Million Little Pieces,"
and the talk show host apologized to her viewers, saying she felt "duped."
"I have been really embarrassed by this," said Winfrey, whose praise for
Frey's book in September helped make it the top-selling book on nonfiction
lists in the United States last year.
"I really feel duped," she told Frey on her television show. She said he had
betrayed millions of viewers.
Should be an interesting hour .......
For full story, here's your link: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11030647/
I hope he stays clean during this and just perhaps takes the opprotunity to work on all areas of his sobriety.
I do have to say that I love that he said he was in jail 87 days and it was actually 2.
2 days/ 87 days... well that is just splitting hairs now isn't it.
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back of an alley, me and the boys, a couple of pesos
OK, I admit it. I am powerless.
My name is Jim, and I watch Project Runway.
Oh, I do feel better now. Hell I might as well admit it all, I also watch Celebrity Fit Club. I love Celebrity Fit club, primarially because it is entertaining to see hoe embarassed Young MC and Tempest Bledsoe are to be on this ridiculous show. I am tickled by the hightened level on the uncomfortable meter. Plus it delights me to see how nervous thses guys get around the gays, and boy there are gays on this show. That Ant person who host is just a fright wig away from being Phyllis Diller, except that he is not funny. It was great though to see Chasity Bono stand up for Jeff Conway and insist that he get help.
Now, back to project runway. Do I ever love the drama. I am biting my nails to the quick waiting for the episode when Santino is thrown off. I really love Daniel V., Chloe and Nick. I will be sad to see two of them go and really do think that they will be the final three. Last night I was meeting with a sponsee at my house and started to notice that the clock was getting frightenly close to 9, thank goodness that he was not dealing with any major crisis, I just picked a short story from the big book, read quickly, told him he was doing great and sent him in his way.
I was shocked, just shocked when Zulema asked for a model walkoff...GASP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The nerve.
Damn, I have to work... more later.
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January 25, 2006
another day 'til revolution
I have been having a really difficult time sleeping lately. I toss and turn and find myself thinking alot, running through my day and planning out the following, not in the obsessive way I used to but still not good for my rest. So I have been going to the gym a couple of hours before bed time in hopes that I will tire myself out a bit and fall asleep easier.
Because I have been feeling a little lonely lately I have made myself reach out and make new friends. I used to think it was a little pathetic, to be in my late thirties and essentially calling up people I don't know to see if they want to "play" (in a totally non-sexual way). Now I find it a little exciting.
Who wants to be my friend? I have some great toys.
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January 24, 2006
only a block away from Zabars
I was psyched to see that Surface is going to be available on iTunes. I have been able to watch the first season of Desparate Housewives on the treadmill at the gym, I have a standing obligation on Sunday nights and don't get to see it and sadly I do not have tivo. I also have the first season of lost recorded, so I can sit through it all. I love Surface, but don't always catch the show, so again, I am very excited.
I was at Lunds, my neighborhood fancy grocery store, yesterday buying some frozen pizzas, I mean fresh fruits and vegetables and all I could notice was how many hot guys were there. Now I was not surprised by this, I have been picked up, I mean asked out, at this very grocery store before, there are usually hotties present. But yesterday was like walking into a Falcon shoot. So I went home put the pizza in the freezer and went to the gym.
I am trying, right.
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January 23, 2006
Kiss Today Goodbye
I wasn't going to post today. I have actually been thinking all weekend how I was going to put an end to One Gay At A Time. I feel really invaded after the whole lawyer thing. II guess that I forget that anyone surfing the net can wander across my site and learn way to much about me. Although most wanderers get here through googling "Wentworth Miller Gay" I am sure that some stay and read.
I spoke to Dan about putting this little phase of my life to bed and he asked me what motivated me to blog as it is. I mean there are alot of people with more talent writing blogs out there. And God knows that alot of talented bloggers have shut there sites down this year, I am still missing ebrechi. I guess that the thing that brings me back to this everyday, other than the glee at showing off yet another cutie is that I do feel some connection to you all. I have met some great people through this blog, all the boys in houston, and reconnected with some really special people from my life, shout out to Gretchen. I have learned alot about myself really, that surprised me.
So for today One Gay continues on, screw the suits right! Man can't keep me down.Someday it will end, that is inevitable, but not today.
See you tomorrow.
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January 20, 2006
somebody's watching me
I had the unpleasant experience of sitting in a deposition yesterday from 9-6. It was regarding a class action lawsuit that I am part of and I am not going to discuss any if the particulars of the case. Here is the creepy part though. At one point during the deposition(and yes I did want to jump on the table singing "my depostion, my deposition is this, my deposition) the lawyers asked me about my work as a reverand who performs gay marriages.
I laughed and was very confused, I am not a reverand I said, then I remember...I am a reverand, of the Universal Church of Life. What's more, I remembered that the only possible way that anyone could have known this was from reading this blog. Their law team had a print out of my entire blog.
Little creepy huh.
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January 19, 2006
Just a Quickie
I have a busy day out of the office today, so I am posting quickly with my morning coffee. Have a great day guys, and gals, and those in transition!
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January 18, 2006
open a new window
I have made a decision that today is going to be a good day. I make the choice to not be cranky and stressed, life will be good. Whatever comes my way I will accept and deal with it. Life on life's terms, if you will.
Wish me luck.
Better yet wish those around me luck!
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January 17, 2006
TUSHY
Laura sent me this great picture of Tushy and I had to share it with everyone, I had to because the kitty told me to with her hypnotic stare
must
obey
tushy
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she's a headache
Well, I was a bit disappointed that Heath Ledger did not win a globe last night. His performance really was exceptional. But I was pleased to see Brokeback recieve such recognition. Some highlights from the Golden Globes:
* Blythe Danner's daughter's bra strap hanging down her arm while she presented Anthony Hopkins with the Cecil B DeMille award
*Wentworth Miller
* the ridiculousness that is Issac Mizrahi as he asked Hillary Swank if she was seeing anyone now that her marriage was over, she responded that she was working on her marriage. She should have asked Issac if he was designing clothes now that his career was over.
* Steve Carrel's very funny speech.
* Wentworth Miller
* Melanie Griffiths continuing to look like a crack whore in her 1980 Nolan Miller inspired dress introducing her and the bloated Don Johnson's tragically plain daughter.
* The cast from Will and Grace actually being humorous.
* did I mention Wentworth Miller?
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January 16, 2006
Finally, Recognition.
The Deja Vu Decade is immortalized
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In the water she's a very skinny lady
Sad news this weekend with the death of Miss Shelley Winters.
Other than that I had a great time. I purchased a sofa off Craigslist and it ended up that it was from a fabulous lesbian couple, one of whom I used to work with at Q Monthly, a glbt paper in Minneapolis. Small world. It is a Jasper sofa from Room and Board, one that I had looked at before, and at a great price. It looks fabulous in my living room, although now I have an abundance of furniture. Fortunately Dan has a larger sober house that he needs to furnish, so all is good.
It is so hot in my office today, I think I will be cranky and do my best to make those around me miserable, that should make me feel better.
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January 13, 2006
Not a day goes by
I am coining a new word and I want to document it here so that when it is added to the Oxford English Dictionary I am given proper credit. I am still miffed that my names for the 90's of the Deja Vu Decade never really caught on.
Frey, pronounced Fray, : to manipulate facts to benefit oneself, to memoirize, to lie
verb form- I really freyed on my taxes last year, the IRS will be hot for me.
adjective form- His freyic behavior makes it difficult to trust anything he says
adverb form- I was going so freying fast that the cops could never catch me, stupid cops.
noun form(or Gerund form, I love the word gerund) That's what she said, well understand it came from a frey.
Remember to put this word to use immediately and give credit where credit is due. By the way, this will hopefully be the last post on this subject, I am bored.
On another note, and there isn't a bit of frey in this. I was totally cut off by Senator Norm Colemans mobile office on the way to Starbucks this morning. Not that he ever had it, but he has completely lost my vote!
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January 12, 2006
Does it Matter?
There is a comment on my last post from tay hota asking if James Frey's untruths really took anything away from the essence and importance of A Million Little Pieces.
I think the answer is yes, although it is a provisional yes.
One of the problems is that by being dishonest about certain events in his past Frey calls into question the veracity of everything in the book, and in My Friend Leonard for that matter. Can you trust a liar when they insist they are telling the truth. Also, by expanding on events that did happen, Frey is discarding the importance of the truth. His life had reached a terrible point, I believe that. Is his life that much more horrible because he was arrested for a lesser charge, or spent days not months in a jail cell? My answer would be no.
His real story I am sure is great, it would be inspirational and important to many people. I am not as sure that it would sell the number of books that his version sold.
Another problem that I believe is caused by A Million Little Pieces, is that in comparison to Freys "life" most people's are rather tame. The question of my addiction and the consequences attached to it compared to Frey---do I need to quit, having not reached that point. I am sure that there have been readers either battling their own addiction or in relationship with people who are battling addiction who call into question their own relationship with drugs and alcohol based on what Frey reports happen to him.
I think this is a disservice to the changes that Frey has made in his life and indeed could be dangerous for readers.
I believe that this book has helped people, I want to be clear about that. I know that people have read this book and reached out for help.
Sadly I think, and I have no proof except for my own history and I hope I am wrong in this assumption, that the revelation that James Frey is a liar/exaggerator/ memoirist will in a sense give permission to those following his approach, just hang on, of recovery to use again. That would be a very sad thing indeed.
Therein lies the reason for the tradition in AA of maintaining anonimity at the level of press, radio and film.
I have made light of the saga of A Million Little Pieces and James Frey on this blog, because it has never been my intention to use this space as a serious sounding board, it is more of a pleasant escape. But I do take recovery seriously and am greatly saddened by all of this. Well enough of that tomorrow, back to the boys!
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it is a memoir
Apparently if I call this a memoir I can say anything I want, no matter how far from the truth and not be held accountable.
As an addict I have waited my entire life for this. It is like being given the keys to the kingdom. Thank you James Frey. Now I can tell you about
- my work as a secret consultant during the Clinton Administration
- how I turned down the Nobel Peace Prize because I know what a cry-baby that Desmond Tutu can be
- how during my work as a hostage negotiator I single handedly disable a secret cell of terrorist and rescued 45 people from certain death
- I had the idea for the Joey spinoff
Oh there is so much more to tell...THE FREEDOM THE FREEDOM !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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January 11, 2006
The best review of A Million Little Pieces
This is good
You just know that some fact checker at Harpo is packing their desk this week.
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one love to be living for
Things that went through my mind on my drive into work-
wow, it is getting sunny early
I can't believe the mississippi has not frozen over this year, maybe global warming is real, how will this affect future generations
damn, my fingernails grow quickly
Minneapolis really is a pretty city, especially when the sun is reflecting off the skyline in the morning
Is that guy eating a hot dog?! Who east hot dogs for breakfast?!(the answer is apparently big men driving saturns)
I wonder where I could get a hot dog
why are these people in my way!
Stop thinking about what is used to make hot dogs!
I hope henry does not pee on my new couch
can I still call in sick today
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January 10, 2006
we had to be a table
This morning's commute was terribly frustrating for me. As the days grow longer the sun rise is earlier and apparently people were terrified of the giant fireball in the sky, because the were going 30 mile an hour on the thruway!
Don't they realize that I time my mornings exactly so that I can get myself a latte before I go into the office?!
WHY DO PEOPLE CONSPIRE AGAINST ME!
OK, now that is out of my system.
The Today Show has picked up on the James Frey/Million Little Pieces scandal, or as I call it James Frey/Million Little Pieces scandalgate. They claim that the information came from the Smoking Gun website, but we are all aware that Matt is a huge fan of One Gay At A Time and know that he heard about it here first.
I wonder what Ms Winfrey will have to say, she will probably give him a talk show.
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January 09, 2006
I'm young and beautiful
I want to start this post by saying that I firmly believe that people with alcohol and drug problems can find the solution to their problems through many paths.
That said, I also know that the solution to the problems I have with Alcoholism and Drug Addiction has been found in 12 Step Programs. I know, because I am surrounded by examples daily, that when people who are Alcoholic and/or Drug Addicted follow the suggestions laid out in the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous and other 12 Step Programs their lives become better.
When I read A Million Little Pieces(yup, that is what this post is about), I thought it was a very entertaining if often creative narative of what an Alcoholic or Drug Addicts life would look like. There were many things in the book that made me roll my eyes, recognizing the sound of grandiosity in his writing. Frey wanted to sound like the worst addict out there, a contest which is run with regularity in every treatment center and recovery program. It in fact becomes predictable and rather boring after a time.
Unlike me, who was willing to kind of laugh the embellishment the folks over at The Smoking Gun decided to do some research and came up with some terrible interesting factual errors(which in some circles are called lies), these can be found here.
Well, I am not going to spend alot of time editorializing about this, because I have to get to work, But I would love to hear what you all have to say.
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January 06, 2006
everyday when you do what you do everyday
12th night Party tonight at Bobo's, I am looking forward to relaxing.
I have so much to do at my house that I am finding myself overwhelmed by the number of projects and then I do nothing on any on them. Of course, if I follow the steps and the guidance that I give to others, I would take this one step at a time and one project at a time and now allow myself to be overwhelmed.
Nah, I just think I will ignore them this and hopefully it will all just take care of itself.
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January 05, 2006
in Buddy's eye's I'm beautiful
A minneapolis blogger who attacks the democratic party is being sued by a PR firm for defamation. They are claiming that he should be held to the same standards as all media. While I don't really care for the political leaning and rants of this particular blogger, I don't want a precedent like this set. I am not a member of the media, I am just a nimrod who writes about crap which he thinks is funny. Sometimes they are lies, fro example, and I am sure that this comes as no surprise, not only are Wentworth Miller and I not dating, we have never met. This is not to sday that we are not in love with each other mind you, I just don't want to be sued by his publicist.
Alright on a completely different topic, I got a video ipod yesterday. Fortunatley there is a 20 year old in my office who is able to show how to work it. The audio part is a breeze, I have an ipod mini, too(although somebody is harassing me for it now that I have a new one), so I am familiar if not a little saavy at loading songs. The video part however, a little confusing. I was trying to download a beloved sean cody video, just for viewing on the stairmaster at the gym mind you, and so far have been unsucessful.
I will figure this out.
Oh yes I will.
In the meantime there is a ton of useless crap on iTunes that I will undoubtably buy.
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January 04, 2006
a city of man
I happened to wake up at 1:30 or so this morning and went downstairs to grab a glass of water. There I picked up the remote purely from habit and turned the tv on, it was amazing to see that all 12 of the remaining miners had been found alive. To see the joy in the families faces as they rejoiced helped me to go back to sleep. To wake up this morning and find that all but one of these men was really dead was terrible. My heart goes out to those families.
Odd that last week I was all pissed at west Virginia for banning Brokeback Mountain from their theaters and this week I am saying prayers for its residents. I am glad I don't hold grudges.
I was watching In the Life last night on PBS, they had an episode about young glbt's coming out. This is a really grreat show, and I never remember when it is on so I am always pleasantly surprised. One young man living in Manhattan was talking about how gay activists today are different then the last generation. How they are not responding in anger, but with humor, which is a change from the angry, protesting activist of past years.
Well, kiddo, allow me to speak as a former angry, protesting activist. We used alot of humor, alot! If you look at the archives of ACT UP and Queer Nation, we were funny. Damn funny.
And if kids today are not angry, then they need to stop watching reruns of Will & Grace and look out their windows, or read the paper.
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January 03, 2006
back in the saddle
A New Year and back at work! While I enjoy having a few days off it does seem that just as my internal clock is giving me permission to sleep in a little bit I have to start getting up early again.
2006. This year holds a couple of milestones for me, or at least the promis of a couple milestones. In May I will turn 40. Of course my friend Julie says that 40 is the new 30, but I think that is because we are all turning 40 and we want to soften the blow a bit.I remember, vaguely, my mom's 40th birthday party and wondering how anyone could possibly be that old. Well, let's just say that my thoughts on this have changed a little.
On a completely different line of thinking, I have decided to start collecting transferware, red transferware. I think this is really handsome stuff, therefore I must try and have it all.
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January 02, 2006
advance from the mailroom
I had a very nice weekend and a highly pleasant New Years Eve. I remember when I was just a little guy my parents would have their friends Howard and Mary over for dinner on New Years and the would just have dinner and sit around enjoying each others company. I, of course, knew from movies that New Years Eve was for tuxedos and beaded gowns and could not believe how lame my parents were that they were not somewhere glamorous raising a champagne glass at midnight.
This year as the new year rang in I was pinning up new drapes I am making in my bedroom.
They are at least glamorous, raw silk, the window side a chocolate brown and the beroom side pale blue. There is a large cuff of chocolate brown on the bedroom side also. They look great.
It was a great night.
I am not a big resolution guy, and the one I was making was snickered at by a friend, so I have been shamed into withdrawing it. So this year I will continue to try to be the best man I can. And to consistently bring you all photos of hot shirtless men.
I think I can handle that.
Happy New Year!
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