Hmmm...if I wasn't going to be in church wearing no makeup and a long skirt...I would definitely go to LA!!!!!!!!!!

As I and my parents get older, my interactions with them are increasingly driven by a desire not to do anything I'll regret when I'm standing over their casket.

I consider every moment (especially holidays) spent with the family to be an unspoken addenda to my living amends, replacing all the time our disease stole from us from being together. This is assuming the holidays with family won't be fraught with drama, of course. If it is painful and hazardous to be around family, don't feel guilted or obligated to self-inflicted torture. Besides, it would be more enjoyable to see the boy when you've arranged a 'special' trip to see him ...perhaps without the stress and competition of the holidays added on. Financially, this might be pushing it, but then, all the more precious the time you get to spend with him, once you do get to see him.

The old farts used to say something along the line of, if you are arguing the point with yourself, then you already know in your heart which one you want to do.

Good luck,

Mark

Good answers above.
Even if you are wearing no makeup and a long skirt, your parents would probably like to see you. Ask yourself what they would want, not what you would want.

just a thought...

You can always come to CHicago, meet my girls and then you and I can complain about pain in the ass siblings!

I think it's fairly simple. If Dustin wants you to go to LA and snuggle with him, then LA it is. If he doesn't, then as horrid as it might be, the parents it is. Of course, you could say you have a previous engagement, and travel somewhere tropical :-)

Go see your folks hon.

Holidays are so hard. It is crazy to think that we have this guilt complex that immediately kicks in when we think of doing something outside the box.

I have lived 5 hours from my family for almost 12 years and have only been home for Thanksgiving once. I have not missed a Christmas yet but at some point that may change. Will I feel guilty? Probably. Will I get over it? Yes.

You make the decision that you need to make. I love the thought of spending Christmas somewhere sunny and warm as opposed to the threat of being snowed in with my family.

You only get one family. You can get cock anytime you want. Call your sponsor.

well I knew that I needed to see my folks, just needed to hear it. Thanks guys.