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July 29, 2005
I never reckoned second best
There was a feature this morning on the Today show(missed you this morning Katie, you know how I feel about Campbell Brown!)about the man hug. Having a large number of hetrosexually identified male friends the phenomenom of the man hug is a frequent topic of conversation in my world. Leaning in from the waist, to avoid any possibility of groinal contact, the man hug is quick, lightning fast at times, ending with a closed fist tap of each others backs.
Watching guys, especially hot young guys greet each other in this manner is like an episode of animal planet. Really riveting.
Have a great weekend, I know I will.
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July 28, 2005
Bachelor dandies, drinkers of brandies
I am going to a wedding tomorrow night and the friend I was taking just had to cancel. Anyone want a free somewhat dry chicken dinner and the chance to dance to YMCA with a bunch of breeders?
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July 27, 2005
for mama make him a scholar
I get alot of spam in my comments. There isn;t a day that goes by which does not find me deleting comments about blackjack, texas hold 'em and great mortgage deals. Ugh, is nothing sacred, I ask you that?
Yesterday was very busy at work and I really wanted to go to home right afterwards, but went to my home group, because that is what we do. It has been a while since I have found myself at an AA meeting where I did not feel like I was part of the group, but that was the case last night. The feeling passed, but was a little unsettling. Thankfully I have friends to talk to about such things as my distorted views of life and we enjoyed a chuckle as they told me once again that I was not unique in having these feelings.
Damn, just when I thought I was finding something that made me different.
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July 26, 2005
how quickly pity leads to love
The temperature finally broke in a very dramatic storm last night and sleeping was a relaxing experience once again. This morning felt like early autumn, is was wonderful.
So I was having a conversation with Dan last night about what constitutes a date. I leave this open for discussion. If two men, of a bachelor persuasion, who do not have an established friendship make plans to have dinner with each other, not a group experience, is that a date? Or is it two guys hanging out? I am a firm believer (heehee firm) that gay men can have real non-sexual friendships with each other. God knows I am grateful that most of my friendship are non-sexual(although there are a couple that I wouldn't mind, you know), so I know it is possible.
Well I ramble, what do you think.
Speaking of thinking, I think that the show Medium, with Paticia Arquette is a piece of crap and am amazed that ANY of the Arquette family actually is paid to act.
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July 25, 2005
If someone like you, loved me.
Well the weekend was very nice. I saw The Island on Saturday night with friends. There seems to be an agreed upon picture of the future that runs through most movies and I for one am looking forward to the time when we are all attractive with rockin' bodies clad all in Gucci! Why won't the future hurry up and get here?
I got a very interesting flash from the past e-mail this past weekend. Apparently in Googling the name of childhood friends, Jimmy R. found me. Jimmy and I were best friends for a couple of years when we were kids, and then grew apart. Because of my using, and the fact that for many years there I was a self-obsessed jackass(although I still think that blogging is the height of self-obsession), I was an asshole to him at a point in our twenties. It is nice to have the chance to make amends.
I did a bunch of bike riding this weekend(Lindsay, you are never getting your bike back!), it was warm, but beautiful. These are the kinds of days in Minnesota that make us forget the dead of winter.
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July 22, 2005
beacause I knew you, I have been changed for good
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The weekend is starting and it is going to be another scorcher, according to the SKYMAXX Weather team of Kare 11. I think that being a weather guy must be one of the greatest jobs, if your forecast is right you are a hero, and if it is wrong you can blame it on the uncertainties of nature. It is a win/win situation.
I have a friend coming over to grill and watch a movie tonight, same friend as last week. That will be fun. Shari is in town, I am going to try to enlist her help in some around the house project that require more than two hands. Have some tentative plans for Saturday night that will bring together the regulars, Fabian, Dubin, Dan, Bobo, although they have not all been consulted. This is notice Dave, you are having us over for dinner and a movie Saturday- let's do tuna steaks.
Sunday I am working at the gym in the am, then meeting with a sponsee, hopefully taking a nap in the afternoon, sober house meeting at 8 and the I am off to bed.
Well, that is quite the agenda, we will touch base on Monday and see what really happens.
I don't really get political here, I leave that for others, but there have been so many disturbing things in the news lately. It may be time to start mixing wheatpaste again.
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July 21, 2005
forget that I have no one and nothing to love
Wow, this week has gone by quickly.
My friend Shari is coming down from Duluth again this weekend. It is always nice to see her. She does not get to many meetings up north, so this means that I will be hitting a whole bunch this weekend, which is good for me.
I have been really tired lately, which may have something to do with the fact that I am not working out at all and have become completely lazy.
Perhaps.
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July 20, 2005
walk down the street and have your picture took
Boy oh boy, now we have a Supreme Court nominee.
Karl Rove who?
I am a good american.
Sorry, it is early and I am a little cynical. Anything I start to write this morning gets deleted. My mind is just not on blogging, so enjoy. Have a good day.
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July 19, 2005
friends, sisters and pals
Whenever I start to think I have control over the things going on in my life and that I am in charge, my cats remind me that this is certainly not the case.
I wonder how history will remember the Bush era?
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July 18, 2005
last night I watched him sleeping
How nice was it to walk outside this morning and have it be an acceptable temperature! The weekend was nice, but hot.
I worked at the gymthis weekend, for a friend who had to go out of town. I was there both Saturday and Sunday and that makes for a long time without a day off. I really do need at least one full day off.
I had a new friend over for dinner and a movie on Friday. we watched Finding Neverland, if you have not seen this movie you must add it to your Netflix list. It really is a delight. The company was quite pleasant too. It is still interesting to me, having gay male friends in recovery. In the past, when using, I made friends by sleeping with people, then deciding if I liked them or not. This way works out much better.
Oh yea, as a pop culture whore, I did buy Harry Potter on Saturday.
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July 15, 2005
If not tomorrow, then the day after that.
A very long and busy work week is coming to an end, a weekend of r&r ahead and I could not be more excited.
A friend forwarded an link to yesterday about people who had lost job opprotunities because they placed their blog addresses on their resume. Now I am certainly not putting One Gay at a Time on any resume, unless there is an opening for talent scout at Sean Cody(which I AM available for by the way!). But I have no desire to stop, at least not today. I do like the benefits of blogging, I have met some cool people, aggravated some equally cool people, and recieved some rather interesting dvds. So, just for today I will continue with my blog.
We will have to see what tomorrow holds.
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July 14, 2005
The climate must be perfect all the year
The heat here is too much, I mean 90 degrees AND humid, come on. Of course it is, as my dear friend Wayne says, much easier to shovel heat than snow.
I went to Cafe Barbette for dinner last evening with my friend Joe. Barbette, where the food is always good and the service always unfortunate. However the company was outstanding and the far makes up for many things.
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July 13, 2005
You can be my best friend, I can be your right arm.
Well, after my little rant yesterday it ended up being a rather good day. My home group is on Tuesday nights, the Gratitude Group, and I look forward to that all week. I also met with my first and longest term sponsee after the meeting. We had a bite to eat and then read a story from the Big Book. I love the fact that we can get together, read something and have it be completely appropriate for that time and place.
Well, I am alone in the office right now, everyone is late, and the phones are starting to ring so I had better get to work.
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July 12, 2005
people, people who need people
The greatest challenge in my life comes from other people. Damn, I wish that were true, it comes from the way I react to other people, I know that, but I still want to blame them. If only everyone else would do exactly what I wanted, traffic would part for me, people would be in good moods, people would actually do what they said they were going to do, I would have a boyfriend, the list goes on ad infinitum.
Mornings are a major challenge for me.
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July 11, 2005
Put down the knitting
I have been away for a few days. It was nice to relax, not have work looming over me, just hang out. My schedule is very full. I work 2, sometimes 3 jobs( I don't really consider the Firm a time commitment), go to meetings, work with sponsees, and attempt to have a social life. Whoever said that sobriey would be boring?
Back in the office after a few days away though, I am a little overwhelmed by the amount of catch up I have to do, so very short post today.
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July 06, 2005
I know the neighborhood would give it's consent
It is the end of a short week for me. Boy, these two day work weeks are hard!
Tomorrow I am off to a retreat at Hazelden, I often think how nice it would be to go through treatment again, now that I have been sober for a while. The idea of taking 28 days or so to really get a look at things going on in my life. I am sure that the idea is a little more romantic than the reality, but a four day retreat still holds its appeal. I don't imagin that I will be posting while I am there, not terribly "spiritual" and all. So I will see you all next week.
Have a good one!
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July 05, 2005
from your first cigarette to your last dyin' day
I have been thinking alot lately about smoking again. I quit smoking 8 years ago and every once in a while I start obessing about how wonderful it would be to smoke again.
Then it passes.
Fireworks were pretty, if short-lived past night. But after a long day I was glad to have it end and head home. I needed my sleep. It can be a challenge to come back to the office after a few days off. This is a short week though, so that makes it easier.
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July 04, 2005
It's a Great Day for the Irish
I went out to the Saloon last night with Dan, now I don't go to bars much anymore but I thought that it might be fun, holiday weekend and all. It was a regular celebfest, saw Andy, who is just adorable in person and Mike, also no slouch in the cutiness category. It was a good time.
There was one thing though that made the evening. Playing pool was an curly haired man/boy wearing board shorts and a green t shirt which read, "Fuck Me, I'm Irish" He was delightful.
The evening took an unexpected turn however when, apparently over heated by the stress of competative eight ball, Irish Boy(as he will forever be known) peeled his t shirt up and over his head!
The music stopped! The bar came to total silence, smoke hung unmoving in the air, liquor lingered suspended between bottle and glass as this beautiful creature moved around the pool table, his ROCKIN' ABS reflecting the light, only when he paused, making certain he had the focus of all to adjust his ample board short covered junk were we earth people allowed to resume our lives. Why, Dear God, did I find myself without a camera, not even a camera phone(the phone makes my short look bulky you know), why oh why do all bad things happen to me.
So the memory of this creature remains burned in my mind, at least until I see another hot guy. Create your own version if you will and enjoy.
Oh yea, happy fourth of july.
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July 01, 2005
you should try it in heels
Half day of work today, yeah, that's right, half day woohoo!!
No work monday, thank you revolutionary forefathers!!! 3 and a half day weekend that's what I'm talking about, life is good yup!
Well, now that I have all of that out of system. Wow, I am in a great mood this morning.
I went to see War of the Worlds last night with my buddy Colin. It was really exciting, dark, but really cool. Lots of stuff blew up, you have got to love that. After the movie we walked from Block E to Veras for a cup of joe. Right by the Walker an early 30 something guy in a suit, carrying a gap bag just got of a cab at a light. He was really drunk, stumbling and started to complain that the cabbie had thrown him out. Then he stumbled right out into traffic and across Hennepin(for those of you outside the twin cities, Hennepin near the Walker is a four lane major traffic area). Colin and I watched, a little horrified, a little curious as he made it safely to the other side. God watches over drunks.
I remember, well at least I remember parts, of days like that. I was a big fan of the midweek after work obliterating drunken evening. Fan may not be the right word, but it was a place I found myself often. I was grateful that I have not found myself there in a long time.
I may not be posting this weekend, so have a great holiday everyone. For those of you who are not american, have a great weekend.
You know what they call the Fourth of July in England?
the fourth of july. lololololololololol, I kill myself.
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