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June 17, 2005
the Jews have all the Money and the Whites have all the Power
That lyrics bite goes out to my friend Leo.
The server is down at work, so I am blogging my my laptop at my desk, stealing someones wireless. Technology has once again made me a thief!
I have a very exciting/scary weekend ahead of me. Like many people in recovery(and many not in recovery) I have a rather odd family dynamic. I talk to my folks a couple of times a week, we get along famously, now that I am living sober. While I was using the relationship was oddly enough strained, my father and I communicated through a series of conversations and checks. Today though it is completely different, and I am very thankful for that.
However, we have never been like the Waltons. No major family gatherings, everyone is pretty mush a free spirit. So it happens that I have not actually seen my either of my parents in 7 years. I talk to them all the time, but we have not been together. Keep in mind that I have been sober six and a half years, so it is also important to remember that since I was about fourteen I have not been with my parent sober.
I am going to see my parents tonight. It is my mom's birthday and father's day is sunday, so I thought this would be a nice surprise. They do not know I am coming. I am actually just stopping by to see them on a trip to see some other friends, so I will not really be disrupting their routine. There is a longer trip planned later this summer, but I thought this would be a nice ice breaker.
Send me good wishes.
Posted by JimG at June 17, 2005 08:39 AM
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Proofread, honey, proofread! I'm confused. They do or the DO NOT know you're coming?
Good luck - I'm sure it'll be all fine!
Posted by: SparklesMpls at June 17, 2005 10:44 AM
When I ran away to Europe to "find myself" I too did not see my family for 7 years. Although we talked fairly regularly and I did not feel like I was missing out, that all thanged the day I stepped of the plane and saw my mother's tears. Right there, right then, at that moment I realised that I had to make time for my family and include them not only in the good things but also the hard times. If you are half as happy to see them as I was you will be one lucky man. I am with you. Good luck and hey...remember...have fun!! They are your parents...we cannot choose them or replace them.
Posted by: Jeffrey at June 17, 2005 11:27 AM
Best Wishes... I had a brief 6 month period of not seeing my family and actually not even talking with them. I remember how aged my dad/stepmother and mother looked after that. It may have just been because of all they had gone through physically during that period but it was weird.
I am sure that you will enjoy your stop over. Hopefully, they will appreciate your efforts and care. They are fortunate to have you as their son. As it sounds you are fortunate to have them also.
Peace.
Posted by: steve at June 17, 2005 12:31 PM
Good luck. I guess they don't know about your blog, eh? :-)
Posted by: KipEsquire at June 17, 2005 02:44 PM
[hug] Jim, I was also completely estranged from my parents for a few years. We talk occasionally now and I see them once a year (I might do it twice this year because they are starting to get old.) It is a hard road back and if there's a right answer to all of this I haven't found it yet. In the end you must do what is right for you.
[another hug]
Posted by: Karen at June 17, 2005 03:41 PM
Hope your visit goes well, good luck.
Posted by: scottw at June 18, 2005 08:42 AM