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April 07, 2005

Marry Me a Little, Love Me Just Enough

When I was a freshman in college I met a guy named Bob, he was a little guy, about 5'7" curly brown hair and he made me very happy. Within a couple of months we were living together, taking road trips to Toronto and his family's house on Long Island.
Times were not always great, there were days when we didn't have money(an evening of eating Halls cherry cough drops as candy is a great memory), I drank too much, he forgave me, most of the time.

We loved each other, very much and if we could have we would have been married.
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The spring we both turned 25, following a root canal Bobby had a anuerism and died. I was working for a caterer and got home to find the answering machine filled with messages from his friend Michelle about how he had started to ramble incoherently and that she was taking him to the emergency room. By the time I got to the er he was being put on life support where he would stay fopr three more days until his parents agreed to have the machines turned off.

I was not allowed to be in the room when the man I had spent the previous 7 years loving died, because I was not related to him. My father, who has always had difficulties with my sexuality, dismissed my grief by telling me that Bob was just a sex partner, what was I so upset about. I had to pray for this man I love separated from him, at the will of his parents, who did have a change of heart by the time the funeral happened.

This event is was made me realize the political significance of my life. That indeed being gay was about much more than sex. This is when I "got involved"

And today I will be at the Minnesota State Capitol protesting against our state governments drive to constitutionally ban same sex marriage. I will be there for Bobby, I will be there for myself and if you can't be there I will be there for you.

But you should be there, for me.

Posted by JimG at April 7, 2005 08:22 AM

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Oh man, I would so be there for you if I only could.

Posted by: Sven at April 7, 2005 10:17 AM

I'd be there with/for you, but for the practicalities of being on a whole other continent and all. But good luck: shout loud, get angry, and don't allow your country to slide back towards inquisition-era spain whilst those around you head forwards into enlightenment.

Posted by: PJ at April 7, 2005 12:50 PM

With much respect, GOOD LUCK.

Posted by: Dave / higher powered at April 7, 2005 09:17 PM

This Canadian gay guy and his husband both wish you much, much luck.

Posted by: sagegrouse at April 8, 2005 08:29 PM

Damn Stupid Blog, Made me cry at work, You gotta put warning lables on these things. Good to see ya out there on Thursday, even if I did get my first sunburn of the season.

Posted by: Karl at April 11, 2005 12:01 PM

Jim, that's good stuff. I wish you all in Minnesota the best of luck and good fortune in the fight.

Posted by: Dunner at April 11, 2005 06:45 PM

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